Do I Need Closure After A Breakup Before Dating Again?
You can’t go forward until there is closure of an old relationship is the common belief. So is closure a must? My best explanation is, I think it is unique to every individual. Some people never really achieve what is viewed as closure and can still go on to have successful relationships.
Is closure that ah-ha moment when you can let go of the past and have forgiveness? And is it absolutely necessary to be able to date again? Check this out:
A Comparison Between Dating & Relationships
There a missing factor when dating, there is no emotional commitment. There might be feelings like nervousness and attraction but that’s about it. Dating is kind of like practice so there really isn’t any closure required.
When comparing dating to a relationship it’s like comparing a soap box derby to a NASCAR race. There is a whole lot more to a relationship, especially when you have involved 100% of your love, your dreams and your future plans.
What we find is that with so much invested in a relationship the process of closure comes in the form of getting back and having control of once again our love, our dreams and our outlook of the future. Because until we have command of these things again we will find it very difficult to start the process of a successful future with someone new.
I Told You That To Tell You This…
OK, you meet someone else, and they look just the way you like, and they have the sense of humor you like, heck they even have great manners and smell good. What sucks is if you are not in control of your feelings from your last relationship this new one has no chance.
This might not be what you want to hear but you should really hold off pursuing a relationship until you can be OK without having your ex in your life. Until you can move on without them refrain from getting into any relationship.
If you are not yet ready for a relationship does that mean you shouldn’t date? No, studies have shown that dating can speed up the act of getting your heart, your hopes and your dreams back.
Getting Back What Is Yours
Here’s what I mean: Dating closure isn’t a must but relationship closure is, if you are looking to build a successful relationship in the future. It is well worth the time and energy to get your emotional ducks in a row. Because it’s not fair to you or the other person, know matter what they smell like.
Taking control of your emotions might be one of the hardest and scariest things you have ever had to do. You need to look at the big picture, the picture of you with a happy future, no matter how scary it might seem now.
There are times when it’s not the right answer to seek closure and move on. If you’re still in love with your ex you don’t have to move on until you’re ready to. You can get your ex back I can show you how. The Make Up Plan
